Have Some Fun!I don't know when it first started happening, (probably long, long before I was born in any case!), but men are afraid of women. My first intuition would be that this is a recent development. They can vote, we've got the first women speaker in the House, they work more and are less traditional wives. But if you look back in history men have been afraid of women for a long time. Shakespeare wrote about fear of rejection and heartache. Look back to Roman and Greek times...the evidence is there too.
Is there any rational reason for this fear? No way! Most men are terrified of women. They'd rather go up against King Leonidas and his band of 299 than even go up to a woman and strike up a convo. Ask her out? They might as well jump off a cliff before that! Men have slowly come to view dating as a chore. It's an oppressive "journey" that has to be traveled numerous times, many of which no clear end is in sight. This isn't how dating should be viewed. If you hold this view it only hampers your ability to meet and interact with women.
Dating should be fun. It should be the time of your life. That's right I said it. It should be one of the
most enjoyable activities of your life. Meeting someone new who could potentially be an awesome partner? Why wouldn't that be great? Go out to a date nervous and afraid and she'll pick up on that.
"Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be." I believe (after a quick Googling) that Abraham Lincoln said that.
Wise, wise words. If dating is scary it's because you've made it that way. You've chosen to let it scare you or view it in that manner. Dating *should* be fun. You should enjoy getting out and meeting someone new. Stop worrying about impressing her. Go into every date expecting that SHE is going to amuse you. She's going to bring something new to the table to make her stand out from every other woman out there. She's going to want to make YOU feel good and interested in her. You should want to do the same as well, within reason that is.
When's the last time you can honestly say you *enjoyed* someone's company? If you can even peg a memory it's probably from a long time ago. Look at every new woman as an OPPORTUNITY. They're all seeds of greatness. Plant a lot of them, water them and give them attention but not too much. Some will flower and grow and others are rooted in too rocky terrain. Some will end up being pretty flowers and a few will end up being thorny brambles. It's hard to tell from early on what you'll but you'll never know if you don't have a good attitude about it and give it a shot.
My reasoning on dating has evolved over the years in terms of what can happen with a new woman or a date.
Past-10,001 things.
5 years ago-The worst thing that can happen is she doesn't like you.
Present-There is no worst thing that can happen.
There are more women than men. Every year the number grows. Check out the latest census info and you'll see it plain as day. If a date doesn't work out, the UPSIDE is that you know she is a no-go and you're on to the next one. You haven't "lost" anything since there were was nothing there to gain in the first place. Actually you might be a little wiser for the wear. Maybe you've spotted qualities you don't like in women, which over time helps you hone your idea of what you DO want.
So get out there and enjoy your dating. You're worth it, aren't you? (If you answered no to that slap yourself!) Find someone who thinks so, the odds are in your favor.
