Changing Your WaysI used to have a routine. I'd meet a girl on MySpace, Match, Hotornot or whatever and catch her interest with an initial email. Maybe my profile had something to do with it, maybe my humor our first time around. Usually these fizzled out, and I used to think it was me. Looking back, most of the time either she wasn't interested or it WAS me. What's different now?
I don't care.I used to. I used to care a great deal about what women thought of me. I think it even went to the level of innately measuring my self-worth based on
their opinions. Silly right? Most men do it but we don't even realize it. So it came to a point where enough fizzled out, and I'd gone through enough women saying "I won't do the same routine this time" that I decided to change.
Change tactic?! Oh no! But it WAS working! Sort of...right? If you're not getting past the 2cd date, (and you definitely want to), something *isn't* working. It's time to change your approach. Most men get comfortable falling into a routine where they say and do the same things. That's boring. You've done if before and you'll exude that indifference and monotony.
The most difficult part of changing for me was that things used to seem different and so new. New methods of approaching, new attitudes towards women. When you've thought about, acted and dealt with them in the same manner for years you get really set in your ways, aware of it or not. Suddenly a radically different approach makes you uneasy. An important thing to keep in mind here is that at one point in your life EVERYTHING was new. You didn't have set ways. You had to try new things out. You didn't have a favorite food. You didn't know if you could play football.
Every time I feel like I'm hitting a "slump" I modify my approach. Sometimes a little, sometimes it's a major overhaul. Grabbing some new clothes, a new haircut or cologne in addition always spruces up your self-esteem. I came up with this saying: "When you inflect it project." If you feel better about yourself-more confident etc, women will notice it. You'll exude that confidence. And THAT'S what is attractive to them. If I've learned anything in the past 5 years it's that women WANT to be approached. They WANT to be hit on. It's a self-esteem boost for them. And if you're not a stuttering Stanley when you do it you differentiate yourself from 90% of the men out there.
Be an Alpha Male! Genetically they're going to be attracted to it. You even see this in culture. The "heroes" in movies, are they wimpy characters? No way! Indiana Jones, James Bond, Tyler Durden...rebels who make no apologies and do wha they think is right, damned what anyone else has to say. They are their own men. And women go NUTS for them.
