So it's been quite some time since my last post but it's definitely time to continue the lessons of Your Awesome Self.
Delve in with me!
Today I'm going to talk about a question that comes up a LOT on the site I write online advice for. Guys are forever asking what women think of when they first see a man and vice versa. It shouldn't surprise you to learn that what men and women think/feel differs a great deal.
This is what I've boiled it down to: Men look. & Women see.
So you're out at the bar with your friends and a hottie walks in. Perfect 10...what are the first things you think:
1. What she looks like naked.
2. What she would be like in bed.
Not our fault guys...it's biological and past our control!
Now women when seeing you initially goes something like this:
1. Does he look like he has A job?
2. Does he look like he has a GOOD job?
3. Does he look like he can hold a good job long enough to benefit her?
Contrary to popular belief, women are more visual than men. They are conditioned to see what they want to see, without staring or being obvious. Men admire, but women inspect. A woman can often decide if she's interested before catching a man's eye.
Men notice contours and curves.
Women notice form and structure.
They also notice men's eyes, hands, teeth, smile, and class....
Women who are more interested in a man's qualities notice men who are honest, outgoing, confident, and have style, intelligence, a sense of humor, and class. These men are perceived as likable, friendly and genuinely interested in others. They develop and maintain a wide range of personal contacts.
Any of this starting to ring true?
Women convey interest with eye contact. Most people have played the glance at-glance away-glance back game before. Surprisingly though most men avoid eye contact with the women they're interested in.
EYES ARE THE WINDOWS TO THE SOUL.
Very true. Don't know who said that but I remember it. And with good reason. When you look at a woman, don't be the first to break the look. It's like the animal kingdom all over again. If you look at a dog and he breaks eye contact first, he is deferring to you. You are the master, and he is inferior. Now while I'm not implying or saying women are inferior to men, you must come across as being dominant though or you don't stand a chance. Use your eyes incorrectly and you could destroy your chances before you've even started working on them.
If a man avoids eye contact, he sends a message that he lacks experience with women, is shy, or lacks confidence. If he stares too hard, he makes women uncomfortable. Men who haven't had much experience with women look at them in a lustful way. Men who have look at them in a confident way that says, "I can have you!" This is challenging to women. This man is different from the rest who let their jaws hit the floor when she walks by.
Don't have pearly whites? Go get Crest Overnight whitenening...smiling is key. Go to the bar one night and look around. Most of the guys don't look like they even want to be there. When babies are shown pictures of models, some who are smiling and some who aren't, time and time again they look at the smiling, happy, pleasing face. Nothing changes when baby boy or girl becomes man or woman. Smile and look like you're having a good time. You'll be surprised at the results.
A man's smile indicates that he is charming, optimistic, friendly, expressive with his feelings, likes what he sees, and, most importantly, that he is approachable. When we smile, our facial muscles stimulate our nervous system to produce a hormone called cerebral morphine. This hormone gives us a pleasant, calming feeling. It also has an anesthetic effect. Notice men who are always with women in a club. I'll bet you 10 to one they smile a whole lot.
Now go chew on that for awhile.
It's good to be back, although from your point of view you never knew I was gone :P
